Most of us start each day with a long to-do list. In a world that is overflowing with options and obligations, we find ourselves struggling to create a balanced life at home, at work and yes, at play. We are pulled in so many different directions that it feels like we’ll never get through the list.
Having a well-balanced life was the topic guest speaker Kimberly Frazier covered at the 2022 GSCCC Volunteer Kickoff. Originally from Morehead City, North Carolina, she is a local life coach and professional speaker who works with leaders from companies such as Dominion, TowneBank, Verizon, Sentara Healthcare and Dollar Tree. She’s also a Girl Scout alum who raised four children—two sets of twins! The girls, now young women with careers and families of their own, were also Girl Scouts.
Kimberly shared a few tips on getting to a well-balanced life starting with the ability to set priorities and say no. “No one benefits if we say yes all the time,” she said. “As women, we put on our superhero cape each day and try to do it all. It just doesn’t work. We start walking through life—or running—half full. When we start to set priorities and one being self-care, we can start experiencing fullness and satisfaction.”
Kimberly knows how stressful life can become. As the mother of two sets of twins by the time she was 24, she says life was a struggle. It forced her to reexamine her life and she found she was merely responding, not actively making decisions on how to experience life. That was more than 20 years ago; for the past six years, she has been teaching others how to develop more well-balanced lives.
You will have times during your life when things are stressful—you have a newborn baby, elderly parents to care for, illness, or struggles at work. Maybe you are going through a hard time right now and you are craving balance.
Kimberly says, “A balanced life is about knowing what your priorities are and how to say no and remove anything that is not a priority that is taking up time you need to be your best. Just like when you are on board a plane and are told that in an emergency you pull the mask on your face first before you help others, that’s what you need to do in your everyday life. You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. Learn to say no to anything that isn’t a priority and yes to your top priorities. And, this is a big one, schedule me time each and every day.”
Kimberly advises us to set priorities in marriage and relationships, at home with family and at work. Be authentic at all times, let people know your priorities and what you can and cannot do, and be open to making changes in your priorities as you move through life.
“Volunteering with Girl Scouts makes us happy and is a priority. We can say yes to something that is important to us like mentoring girls and making a difference, we just need to add it to our priorities and make adjustments for a well-balanced life. But when we expect life to be perfect, life can become really stressful. We have to realize life is always going to be full of unexpected events, so start prioritizing so you can navigate the bumps.”
Get in touch with Kimberly Frazier, Leadership Expert, at 757-615-5562 or Enjoyinglifecoaching.com.
Check out this TikTok short of highlights from Kimberly Frazier’s presentation at the GSCCC Volunteer Kickoff.
Third grade girls at St. Helena Elementary completed a fun STEM badge together.
This Girl Scout alum and GSCCC Board Member has joined the JGL Society.